Here is why your friend’s travel pictures irritate you!

Let’s be honest, we know how people want us to feel happy for their success, and most of us genuinely do. But we also can’t help to feel a little envy or jealousy too, especially when we think that everybody else around us is doing better than us. The reason we feel this is because aside from enjoying deep social connections with our peers, we are quite socially competitive too. We like to know how we are doing in life compared to others and if you are honest you will accept that we like to show off to some extent too. When we see others “showing off”, when we have nothing to brag about, we feel a little bit envious!

To some of us, when we get the tiniest clue that gives us the slightest idea that other people we know are doing better than us, we sometimes feel a sudden drop in our mood. We can’t help to feel envy when we see our peers posting pictures of their travels, when we can’t even afford to buy fruits and veggies at the supermarket to support our diet. We can’t help to wonder how they do it. You ask yourself how they can afford to travel and shop so much. You may wonder where they work and how much money they make, or why you aren’t making enough to also afford doing what they do. Envy and jealousy are actual and real pain!


They say that social networks are designed to share positive things, and I agree with that. Some people go an extra mile at this and basically make a point to show off at every available opportunity.  Some people say that you shouldn’t put your dirty laundry out on social media. I agree with that too. But the reason we get ideas that our lives are not as great compared to others, is because most people only share their glorious moments. They never share their shortcomings or struggles.  This might lead you to think that your life is harder than everybody else, when in fact, it isn’t. The truth is, everybody has a page in their book they don’t read out loud. Perhaps they are ashamed to, perhaps they think it doesn’t concern you, or most likely they don’t want to be judged. We all fear being judged by others when bad things happen to us. But we are totally fine letting you know when we graduate, received a better job, or going on vacation. We don’t just want to let you know. We show it to you, with pictures of us boarding the plane, arriving at the hotel, and sipping margarita near the pool.

Me on the other hand, I want people to know the real me, both the good and the bad. Of course I choose what to share. I won’t share pictures of a bad rash on my penis. I don’t think you want to see that. Am I wrong?


But seriously, I want to make it clear is that I am here to make a difference. If you really follow me, you would know that I am open and REAL about my everyday struggles. I am 35 years old still living with my parents. I struggle to keep a steady job and steady income mainly due to social challenges. My mind and I don’t always get along very well. I make money selling my books (‘Kibra Hacha’, ‘Awa, Habon ku Past’i Djente’, ‘Niun Pataka’ and ‘Hink’é aden’), doing photography and working as a fitness trainer. Sometimes I get regular jobs that get me out of a financial shithole, but I always quit, because my mind hates everything about it. Living the life I live, compels me to save a lot and be frugal. I shop for clothes like every 5 or 10 years. I don’t party, I don’t eat out much. My monthly expenses are really really low. So when I can afford to travel, it’s not because I have money to spend. It’s because I really need it, and I can afford it because I am used to living on a very low budget! (I am not sure I even like traveling. I like to stay inside a lot more.) Last time I went to the Netherlands I also traveled to several European countries. It didn’t cost me anything, because most of them I did on a bicycle. Sometimes I pedaled for six long hours to a different country. Other times I traveled by bus, which is considerably cheaper than traveling by airplane or train. I save money on accommodation by sleeping on the bus, outside in parks or in cheap hostels.


The last time I went to the Netherlands (March 2019) I wanted to save even more, so I decided to travel within Netherlands itself. It’s still traveling, and there are tons of things for you to see and explore in this country. I bought a train subscription for 106 euro’s (NS Flex, lasts 30 days) and explored all the cities that I could. I explore the cities walking, therefore saving money on bus fares. I pack food in my backpack for the whole day, so I never spent a single penny in restaurants. (I am very bad for the economy, I know.) Even though having someone with me might be nice, I always end up traveling alone because people always make me go out of my way, spending more money than I intended to. Besides, sometimes I walk for three hours within a city, and it’s hard to find someone who would do that with me. They would rather take the bus and chill for a while in a restaurant. That is boring to me. I enjoy walking and taking pictures. Both are completely free!

Den Haag

So by doing this in 5 months total I’ve managed to visit and explore 42 Dutch cities respectively: Alkmaar, Almere, Alphen aan den Rijn, Amersfoort, Amsterdam, Apeldoorn, Arnhem, Bodegraven, Breda, Delft, Deventer, Dordrecht, Eindhoven, Enschede, Gouda, Groningen, Haarlem, Heemstede, Heerhugowaard, Hengelo, Hilversum, Hoofdorp, Hoorn, Leiden, Lelystad, Maastricht, Nijmegen, Oss, Purmerend, Roermond, Rotterdam, Schiedam, ‘s-Hertogenbosch, Den Haag, Tilburg, Utrecht, Valkenburg, Vlissingen, Woerden, Zaandijk, Zoetermeer and Zwolle. I don’t even know my own country this well!

I for sure can’t afford to visit fancy places like Dubai or Abu Dhabi. At least not yet. I am real and honest. My life has more struggles than achievements.  You don’t have to compete with me. Just do you!

Smile for the camera!

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